Hanging On To Anger Or Getting Even?

There is more to being a true believer than putting off our old way of life.

Last night I posted my apology and the entire contents of the emails regarding how I acted inappropriately toward a former friend, Teresa/Queenie.  This morning I received an email  from a friend, with a screen shot of Teresa’s Facebook.  The well meaning friend was interested to know at about what time the email to me and my pastor had been sent by Teresa, believing that the conversation on Facebook was regarding the email she had sent.  Coincidentally the times were a match up.  This friend was concerned that what she did was, as she put on her Facebook, nothing more than getting even with me for something assumed was about her on Twitter,  as no names were mentioned:

“sometimes we have mutual friends with those who choose to not like us. It’s all good, I don’t hold onto anger…I get even!”

“I remember a commercial a loooooooooong time ago (like when Frank and I first met) It’s not nice to mess with Mother Nature. Well, let me say this much. Messing with Mother Nature is a lot less dangerous than p*$$ing off the Queenie. ~just sayin =)”

My friend feared that perhaps her email full of proclaimed righteousness in Christ was nothing a blatant lie and her use of scripture only done to make herself look like something she was not.

First – I need to say that certainly the tweets were  about her, she was correct in her assumption.

Second – I do not know Queenie’s heart to know if she has turned away from the sinful way of life as a swinger, engaging in sex with men other than her husband, or not.  It is not my concern.  I can only hope and pray that she would never use the Lord’s Word in an effort to get even with someone, as I doubt that the Lord  finds that acceptable.  I prefer to error on the side of believing she is now a Christian and was acting in love, and not a spirit of vengeance.

Third – many times people do things to us out of evil intent, yet the Lord uses it for our good, to bring about further sanctification in our lives.  In this case, regardless of her intent, I was wrong.  Typing the words is the same as saying them, and as I had quoted from Ephesians 4:29 in my apology, my words were not meant to edify and bring grace to the hearer (reader), they were meant to tear down.  Not a godly example at all and even if she was simply contacting my pastor out of ill intent, God used it to s

how me another area of my life that needs work.

There is more being a true believer than putting off our old way of life.

Romans 8:5 (New King James Version)

5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.

Philippians 4:6-8 (New King James Version)

6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.  8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Philippians 2:3-4 (New King James Version)

3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

*I need to live according the Spirit, and set my mind on those things.

*I need to be anxious for nothing, and set my mind on those things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, good report, and praiseworthy – meditating on those.

*I need to be sure all I do is not out of selfish ambition or conceit, but that I need to esteem others as more important than myself.

I was doing these things.  Regardless of what the condition of her soul may or may not be, I was wrong and I’ve corrected that wrong as best I could.

In conclusion I’ve asked my well meaning friend not to share things in the future from her Facebook.  She has me blocked for a reason, she does  not consider me her friend.  I prefer to go on and think good things and pray for her, not be concerned with her heart motive.  Her heart motive is between her and God.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s